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The Hill Wife

by Robert Frost

V. The Impulse

It was too lonely for her there
And too wild,
And since there were but two of them
And no child,

And work was little in the house
She was free,
And followed where he furrowed field,
Or felled tree.

She rested on a log and tossed
The fresh chips,
With a song only to herself
On her lips.

And once she went to break a bough
Of black alder.
She strayed so far she scarcely heard
When he called her —

And didn’t answer — didn’t speak —
Or return.
She stood, and she ran and hid
In the fern.

He never found her, though he looked
Everywhere,
And he asked at her mother’s house
Was she there.

Sudden and swift and light as that
The ties gave,
And he learned of finalities
Besides the grave.

All washed up at age 26?!?

Okay, there’s something wrong with the tone of this piece in Psychology Today.

Here’s the lede:

Parents aren’t necessarily in the clear when their children walk across the stage to claim their high school diplomas, according to a study by the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research.

About 20 percent of students who were doing well as high school seniors were not meeting their stated or expected goals at age 26, according to a study called Monitoring the Future.

“What’s scary is that it’s unpredictable,” says John Schulenberg, Ph.D., professor of developmental psychology at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, and the study’s lead researcher. “We used to think that if things were going well in high school, they’d continue to go well.”

“Scary”??????

Give me a break.

“Not meeting their goals” is later defined as meaning one of two things. Either the kids have not yet become financially independent, or they’ve “strayed from previously stated educational goals.”

What bothers me is the idea behind all this: the idea that if you push your teenager in the right direction, get him to score well enough on his SATs, get him the help he needs with his college entrance essay, etc. etc. etc., all of his problems will be solved into the foreseeable future.

Since when?

Sorting out what you really want to do with your life is hard, and being bright doesn’t necessarily make it any easier.

The fact that 20 percent of high achievers aren’t there by age 26 is not “scary.” It’s reality.

I can still remember how awful it felt, as a teenager, to think that I needed to choose what I was going to be when I grew up, that I needed to incur debt (in the form of college tuition) based on that decision. It was too much. I knew I wasn’t ready. So after one half-hearted attempt to pretend I knew what I was doing, I transferred to a state school and became a Comparative Literature major. In a sense, I was slacking, but I knew I needed more time, so I decided to get a plain ol’ liberal arts education at a school that cost a hell of a lot less than the private college that had originally accepted me.

Fast forward a couple of decades, and I’m finally beginning to understand what I want to do when I grow up.

Do I wish I had known when I was 16? Of course. But since when can we serve up life in pre-measured packets? Doesn’t work that way, never has.

Everest story gets a bit stranger

About a month ago I blogged about the death of David Sharp, a Brit who was left to die by climbers trying to summit Mount Everest.

One of those climbers was Mark Inglis, a New Zealand amputee. At the time, Inglis said he encountered Sharp on his way up the mountain, and radioed for help, and was told by expedition leader Russell Brice to leave Sharp and move on.

Apparently, Brice has always denied this version of events.

Now Inglis has changed his story to match Brice’s.

This may be why: according to Everestnews.com, Inglis’ party has film footage of Sharp, alive.

. . . the Brice (Himex) expedition member also divulged that film crew members of the Brice (Himex) team had taped footage of Sharp alive and speaking to them on May 15th. Helmet cams reportedly worn by Sherpas supporting the Brice (Himex) team and their Discovery filming project were sending a live signal to advance base camp where the producers watched the grim drama unfold in real time. Tigress Productions, the company commissioned to produce a documentary series for Discovery, has confirmed to EverestNews.com that they do in fact have film of Sharp while he struggled for his life on May 15th.

So Inglis is now in full CYA mode as it dawns on him that footage of a lucid Sharp doesn’t gibe too well with his claim that it would have been impossible to save the guy . . .

Btw, it also seems that Sharp was up there without proper clothing and with too little oxygen. And alone, which can’t be too smart. But that doesn’t let the other climbers off the hook.

This is my lawn

In the back yard.

long long grass

Notice the length of the grass. And that it’s going to seed. I’m neglecting everything. Except my job, my kid, and my novel.

I’ll pick up the blogging pace again soon, but priorities is priorities ;-)

War on chemistry

This seems an awful shame: a variety of government agencies are using a variety of pretexts (including the War on Terror, anti-drug laws, and even regulations governing the use of fireworks) to crack down on companies that offer DIY home chemistry kits.

Steve Silberman has the story covered in Wired.

I can understand the impulse to ban these things. But I think we’ve crossed the line from reasonable caution to cut-off-our-noses paranoia.

I mean for crying out loud — we can’t even allow chemistry experiments in school any more?

The chemophobia that’s put a damper on home science has also invaded America’s classrooms, where hands-on labs are being replaced by liability-proof teacher demonstrations with the explicit message Don’t try this at home. A guide for teachers of grades 7 through 12 issued by the American Chemical Society in 2001 makes the prospect of an hour in the lab seem fraught with peril: “Every chemical, without exception, is hazardous. Did you know that oxygen is poisonous if inhaled at a concentration a bit greater than its natural concentration in the air?” More than half of the suggested experiments in a multimedia package for schools called “You Be the Chemist,” created in 2004 by the Chemical Educational Foundation, are to be performed by the teacher alone, leaving students to blow up balloons (with safety goggles in place) or answer questions like “How many pretzels can you eat in a minute?”

“A lot of schools don’t have chemistry labs anymore,”  explains CEF educational coordinator Laurel Brent. “We want to give kids lessons that tie in to their real-world experiences without having them deal with a lot of strange chemicals in bottles that have big long names.” 

“Big long names”???? You must be kidding me.

You know, my kid is bright, I’ll hand you that. But if she tests bright, I can guarantee you one reason is that the adults in her family NEVER talk down to her — we NEVER “kidify” our explanations of things, or dumb down our vocabulary.

When we’re looking at insects, for example, I don’t just do “oh, look at the fly. Oh, look at the beetle.” We catch it. We pull out the field guide. We do genus and species. We read about why a bug is a bug, why a Painted Lady is a brush-footed butterfly.

And she is a little sponge — she picks it up, quickly, and retains it. For two reasons: because I provide her the information, and because I’m obviously enthusiastic about it, which is infectious.

Meanwhile, at school — and ours is a good school, comparatively — the curriculum doesn’t bother providing this level of information. And I take issue with that.

I mean, life cycle of a butterfly is well and good, but if you repeat that the scientific name of a Painted Lady butterfly is Vanessa cardui, kids will learn it. Maybe not all the kids, but some of them will — and what’s more, I’m convinced it has a snowball effect. It’s like opening a door and showing a kid just how much information is out there. They naturally increase their capacity to learn, based on a sampling of just how much there is to learn.

But what are we doing, collectively, instead? We’re teaching kids to be passive. Worse yet, fearful.

Many students are ill at ease when faced with actual compounds and lab equipment for the first time at school. A study of “Chemistry anxiety”  in the Journal of Chemical Education concluded in 2000 that “the presence of this anxiety in our students could be a contributing factor in the overall poor performance of high school students in science.” (Commonly reported fears included “lighting the Bunsen burner,” and “getting chemicals on skin.”) Restrictions on hands-on chemical experience is “a problem that has been building for 10 or 15 years, driven by liability and safety concerns,” says John Moore, editor in chief of the JCE.

“The liability issues are a cop-out,” says Bassam Shakhashiri, the author of a four-volume guide to classroom chemistry who has taught for 36 years at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. “Kids are being robbed of the joy of discovering things for themselves.” Compared with students in previous generations, he says, undergraduates raised on hands-off science seem passive: “They want someone to do things for them. Even those who become chem majors and grad students are not as versatile in the lab, because their experiences in middle school and high school were so limited. This is a terrible shame. By working with real substances, you learn how to ask the right questions about the physical world, which is half the battle in science.” 

What this guy doesn’t perhaps realize is that it’s starting much, much younger than middle school. I had the pleasure of accompanying a field trip with my daughter’s 2nd grade class last week. They’re studying pond life. One of my responsibilities was to stand on the edge of a pond and help kids scoop mud from the bottom to find critters living in it.

I was astonished to find that some of the kids were bizarrely timid. Weirdly passive. They would sort of touch the strainer to the water and then, almost instantaneously, say “I can’t find anything.”

This floors me. You get a kid outside, out of the classroom, he’s got a chance to maybe catch a real life pollywog or something really awesome or creepy — and he doesn’t even have the most basic impulse to plunge a strainer into the water and DIG?

Argh. Argh.

So no wonder that by the time these kids get to middle school, they’ve progressed from passive to fearful — to being afraid not only of fire and chemicals on the skin but of “big long names.”

But such fear is not natural. It’s learned.

Shame on us, for condemning our children’s minds to darkness that way. Shame.

The day after

After a little girl’s birthday party :-)

balloons

(She was playing something this evening and set these up to be “the audience.”)

’76 all over again . . .

A blind tasting of wines first compared 30 years ago was deja vous all over again.

In May 1976, nine French wine experts judged New World cabernet sauvignons and chardonnays against their beloved red Bordeaux and white Burgundies in a blind tasting.

Judges ranked the California wines as superior. The French were shocked.

They were also a tad unsporting about the whole thing. During the tasting

the French judges made now-infamous aspersions about the wines. Comments such as “That is clearly from California!,” when tasting a sub-par French wine, and “OK, back to France!,” when their taste buds were actually craving a California wine, have haunted the French to this day.

The French consoled themselves at the time with a new twist on sour grapes — they said well, okay, maybe, but the California wines surely wouldn’t hold up as well, over time.

But they have. In this new tasting, which included the same wines compared in ’76, the “top four winners were Californian.”

Ridge Monte Bello 1971, Stag’s Leap Wine Cellars 1973, Heitz Martha’s Vineyard 1970 and Mayacamas 1971 (in a tie), and Clos du Val 1972.

I actually drink a fair amount of French wine, and I delight in finding delicious, modestly-priced French bottles. (I’d delight in the expensive bottles too, if I weren’t on a budget, but that’s a whole other subject.) I’m also enough of a romantic that I’d be heartbroken if the French wine industry ever collapsed.

But I also think it’s silly for the French to think they have a corner on the intelligence, refinement, and commitment to esthetics that it takes to craft fine wines. Obviously, they don’t. And you know what else? That’s okay. Because the fact is, we ought to be celebrating our common culture and heritage and values, rather than projecting our insecurities and letting ourselves be pushed about, pawn-like, by our baser impulses. Don’t you think?

Proud parent

My daughter is taking Suzuki piano and this morning she did her Book 1 recital — she performed all the pieces in Book 1.

Afterward, her teacher told me that she was “outstanding.”

“She couldn’t have done better.”

I’m in heaven.

You should have seen my kid beaming up on stage after she was done.

I’m in heaven.

Home Sweet Sprawl

I have a recurring nightmare in which I return to my childhood home and discover that the wooded property that flanks it to the east–a couple square miles of scrubby ash and white pine–is being developed. In some versions of the dream the first McMansions have been erected. In others, I just find the crude construction roads, harbingers of the building to come.

This matters to me because it was my favorite playground when I was a kid. Then I grew up and now, although I still appreciate the pleasures of flipping over rocks to look for salamanders, I’ve discovered other pleasures as well, like well-stocked supermarkets, and an art museum close enough to easily accommodate after-school visits.

And so my ideal, now, is to somehow combine the two: to somehow partake of the best of both rural and urban pleasures. This sensibility is captured in an article I found today on sprawl, by Robert Bruegmann in The American Enterprise Online:

At the turn of the century, it was primarily wealthy families who had multiple options in their living, working, and recreational settings. An affluent New York banker and his family could live in many different communities in the city or its suburbs. They could summer in the Adirondacks or at Newport, winter in Florida or on the French Riviera. They had the luxury of ignoring their neighbors and choosing their friends elsewhere.

Today, even the most humble American middle-class family enjoys many of these choices. The privacy, mobility, and freedom that once were available only to the wealthiest and most powerful members of society are now widespread. So if the question is, “Why has sprawl persisted over so many centuries and accelerated in the modern era?” the most convincing answer seems to be that growing numbers of people have discovered that it is the surest way to obtain the rich, satisfying life all citizens crave.

So there you have it. When we accumulate a bit of money, we often spend it by moving into a relatively rural area–or buying ourselves a second home in a rural area. Which means someone else may return to her childhood home and find that her wooded playground is gone.

Is it fair to claim my woods is more important than someone else’s dreams of a rural getaway?

No. It seems to me the answer is “no.”

It also seems to me that steeped as we are in time — and in the constant chipping away at anything resembling permanence that marks time’s passage — we often try to cling to things, to force them to remain “as they always were.”

But that ties us into knots.

We have to let go. Painful as that can be, sometimes.